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Twinkle in her Eyes

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At times some people enter your life like a storm and are here to stay. She entered my life like a gushing stream of water and did not return back ever again.

I always tell her you will give the President of any country a run for their position. Loud, bright, colorful, bubbly in other words a typical Delhi Kudi. If she opens her mouth to talk, it’s only when she sleeps she will shut it. Talks a dime to a dozen. She can beat up any guy and make him go weak in his knees but at the same time has the sensitivity of a girl.

Nature wise I love socializing and meeting new people but it’s very few who I actually let into my life. She’s one of the few. I have lost count of the number of guys who have asked me for her phone nos, sigh!!

Has a heart of gold, appears as tough as steel but isn’t. If I tell her she’s being an idiot n should be sensible she makes sure she proves herself to be an idiot again. She carries this charm around her even if you want to, you just cannot hate her, sigh again!!

I’ve lost count of the number of years we have been friends, but I cherish her presence in my life. Life is beautiful when wonderful people are a part of it. True??

Do you agree with the title R?? 🙂

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Respect to Womanhood – Change begins

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This is not a post where I am going to rant and complain about the sad state of affairs of how women are generally treated all over the world,be it in India or anywhere else. We all know about how Women were always considered the weaker sex in society be it in d 10th century or the 21st century!!! That is something which is never going to change cuz the male testosterone is filled with pride and superiority and they would never let a woman rule over them.

Anyway like I said today I am not writing this post to talk about why we are treated badly etc etc but I would want to put across a few points on the change in the mindset of ourselves ‘the women’. Yes I am talking about bringing about small changes in our lives, maybe then collectively the outlook towards women can be changed.

Women need to learn how to detach themselves. Have you ever noticed how we cling on to every tiny thing be it family,relationships,work,things at home and around us? We always tend to create a very sentimental and emotional attachment. The difference between us and men are they know when to detach be it family or work wise. Life goes on where as we are stuck with emotional attachments. Whether we are at home or outside our mind is in two places we are always worried about the family or the child or if the servant is going to turn up today. When your child goes on a holiday more than the child it’s you who is worried if he/she has eaten,if they have slept well n the list goes on. Give yourself a break stop worrying the child will be fine.

Women need to stop feeding the male ego. It can be in any situation be it at home with your spouse,at work with your co-workers or under any normal circumstance. If you know what you’re doing is right stand up for it and voice it. Don’t give in to the male superiority and let them feel a sense of achievement.

Educate yourselves. Have an ambition and goal in life. Go out explore your interests. Earn your own bucks and be financially independent. The high you get from it cannot beat anything else.

Stop taking the entire weight on your shoulders. There is no hard fast rule that only women need to cook or do household chores. If you want things to change don’t expect change from the outside world, start from your own surroundings. Divide work equally at home if you can cook so can the man. Do the household chores together, even men can sweep and clean the house why not?? If you have children don’t take the entire responsibility on your head after all it’s your husband’s child as well. Let them also babysit the child,feed them,play with them and also cook their favorite meals. Trust me you’re not going to get a medal for doing everything yourself so learn to take a backseat and teach the man in your life that he needs to put in a hand too.

Women are their own enemies. It’s true we are our own enemies. It’s very rare that you find two women best of friends. We are always competing and comparing ourselves with other women. We are trying to be the better wife,the better mother,the better employee and the fitter lady. If you see another lady with an expensive branded bag the first reaction is ‘Oh she has such an expensive bag! I wish I could have one too’.

Stop the melodrama. Yes, I am being harsh,take it with a pinch of salt and accept it. We love being dramatic don’t we?? Tears come very easily to us,it’s like we have a bucketful of water waiting in our eyes to explode. Be strong and face situations with grit.

Have you ever heard of a Son-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? No it’s very very rare. How many times have you heard Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? Almost all the time right,so you see we are our own enemies. We are not here to kiss anybody’s ass. Do things the way you like it to be done not how your Mother-in-law wants it to be done. Stop being the scape goat, stand up for yourself and if anybody has a problem let them
deal with it. Don’t break your head over it. Don’t stress about it too much. I am not referring to only the relation between a Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law but in general about any relationship. Just remember you can’t please everybody’s whims and fancies.

Love yourself. Even if your fat,thin,short or tall love yourself the way you are. Treat yourself to surprises once in a while. Take breaks in life spend time with yourself, it’s not always about house,work,family,husband and child. They will all survive without you for a few days.

Change begins from within so start from your own surroundings. We deserve to be loved and respected.

Your’s truly,
A fellow woman 🙂

Scarred for life

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Today I am writing as my blood is boiling with anger, disgust and there is so much I want to vent out. Today I have many questions lingering in my mind and I am not sure if any girl in India or me will ever find answers but time has come for change to be done and not just spoken about.

Every single day we hear of so many incidents happening in our country out of which half are crimes related to women. I detest reading the daily newspaper as it has less of news and more of unforgettable incidents. Every day there are stories of crimes, murders and rapes. Whenever I hear such incidents I feel ‘when will this ever stop’. When will women in India ever be safe? Why can’t we live freely in our own country? Why are we always judged? Why are restrictions thrown at us always?

Two days back a young girl in the capital city of our country Delhi was gang-raped, tortured and thrown out of a bus. What was her fault? She was seen with a guy and was returning back after a movie at around 9.15 in the night. That was her mistake. The young student was raped, brutally tortured and hit with blunt objects for being out with a guy at such an hour. The guy who accompanied her was also hit when he tried to protect the girl. They were thrown out of a moving bus in a semi naked condition. Delhi where this incident happened is the capital of our country India. But did you know that it is also known as the most unsafe city for women in our country? It had nearly 500 n odd rape cases last year? Clear and loud 500 odd rapes in the capital city? If this is not a matter of shame then what is it?

Ever since I heard about the incident I have felt sick to my stomach and I cannot imagine what the young girl’s family may be going through? I have not been able to sleep thinking what will happen to this girl and her family? She has been scarred for life and will she be able to move on in life? Will she live in fear for the rest of her life? What is the trauma they are under? The girl is battling for her life and tomorrow how will her future be? What kind of stigma will this incident leave on her? Will she be even able to forget this horrendous act?

Today I am sure every girl, every other women in our country feel the same way I feel. The time has come now for such incidents and shameful acts to stop. There needs to be stringent punishment for the accused. Why do we let go of such accused? Why are they allowed to walk away free?

Women are considered to be sacred then why are we treated in such a disgusting manner? Why should any girl in our country be subjected to such kind of incidents? Why was the poor girl made to go through whatever she had to? Why cant girls live a life of their own? When a guy can walk around freely in our country, when he can do anything as per his own whims and fancies why the discrimination when it comes to a girl? Why are we judged by what we wear and our mannerisms?

Everywhere, at every stage in our lives be it our surroundings, workplace, school, public places, marriage etc we are harassed and subjected to mental torture. Why can’t we be treated with a little respect?

When will women in our country get to walk around freely without any fear? When can we walk on the streets without being pinched or without being commented on our clothes? When will the no of rapes and in-discrimination among women come to a halt?

As a country why are the accused let to walk away freely? How can such men even commit such acts? Don’t they have mothers and sisters at home? Aren’t they born out of a women’s womb? Do they forget that their own mothers are women? Don’t they feel a sense of social responsibility?

Today we don’t want to hear politicians come out and offer their sympathies but its time now set an example and put an end to such incidents. The accused should be hanged to death; there should be a sense of fear instilled in people for them to even carry out such a crime against women. Such barbaric acts need to undergo severe punishment. Do we hear of such crimes in other countries? No, as there are strict laws to punish the accused. The accused need to be punished and not let go. They need to be hanged to death. Maybe then the incidents of rape and other crimes against women will stop in our country. Maybe then any guy whose perverted mind is filled with such thoughts will think twice before he commits any such crime towards a woman. THIS NEEDS TO STOP AND THE TIME IS NOW. Women are sick and tired of such acts and want an end. We do not want to live in fear anymore. I pray and hope god gives this girl the strength to fight through this.

Educating a Girl Child

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We talk of living in the 21st century but I personally feel that we are still backward in our thoughts when it comes to treating a ‘WOMAN’ in our society.

We have women holding esteemed positions in their careers, who are woman of substance but still there is huge piece missing in this jigsaw puzzle.

In India having a girl child is still considered a shame. Parents shy away from the fact of wanting to have a girl. They feel it’s a lifelong responsibility and burden on the family as compared to having a male child who will uplift the name of the family. Parents don’t want to educate the girl child as they feel it’s a waste of money – she will anyway get married and go away so why educate her is the question lingering in their minds.

What was even more shocking was recently in the so called soap operas such discrimination was depicted. It gave a chill down my spine. A widow is treated as an untouchable, she is considered bad omen to the family. This custom is still followed in many parts of India where a widow, after the death of her husband is treated like the black sheep of the family, she is not allowed to sit with the family members or even been seen around, she can’t eat with them nor neither is she allowed to have a normal life again.

I was shocked, I have heard of such things in the past but never did I realize that it’s still being practiced in this age and time. We talk about innovative technology, web 3.0, where books have been replaced by iPads; western clothing and western lifestyles then why is it that we are so discriminative towards a girl? Is it doing hard to let go of old beliefs and customs??? Are people so susceptible and resistant to change???

There are many more such incidents where woman are looked down upon in our society. There needs to be a change and that change has to be now. We all talk about it but it ends there. We can all do our own bit by making sure every girl child in our families receive proper education.

Educating a girl child is a valuable asset and the best gift any parent can give. Education leads to empowerment and half the problems would subside if girls are empowered with strength and the confidence to take on the world. Infact even the word “Woman has Man to it, think about it 