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Twinkle in her Eyes

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At times some people enter your life like a storm and are here to stay. She entered my life like a gushing stream of water and did not return back ever again.

I always tell her you will give the President of any country a run for their position. Loud, bright, colorful, bubbly in other words a typical Delhi Kudi. If she opens her mouth to talk, it’s only when she sleeps she will shut it. Talks a dime to a dozen. She can beat up any guy and make him go weak in his knees but at the same time has the sensitivity of a girl.

Nature wise I love socializing and meeting new people but it’s very few who I actually let into my life. She’s one of the few. I have lost count of the number of guys who have asked me for her phone nos, sigh!!

Has a heart of gold, appears as tough as steel but isn’t. If I tell her she’s being an idiot n should be sensible she makes sure she proves herself to be an idiot again. She carries this charm around her even if you want to, you just cannot hate her, sigh again!!

I’ve lost count of the number of years we have been friends, but I cherish her presence in my life. Life is beautiful when wonderful people are a part of it. True??

Do you agree with the title R?? 🙂

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A Visit to Vaidehi Ashram

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I met Siri couple of months back when I did a baking workshop. The first instance when you meet her, you will feel a ray of positive energy surrounding you.  Cheerful and bubbly, if your down in the dumps one second around her and your bound to bounce back to happy mode.

Before I met her in person I had been following her food blog “cookingwithsiri” and I must say her blog is one of the very few I follow regularly and experiment in my kitchen. She recently posted an article on the annual day celebrations at an Ashram she has been associated with. Before I could ask her, she invited me to come over on my next trip to Hyderabad and spend some time with the children there. It was like she read my mind. I jumped on hearing that and agreed instantly.

Children and me are inseparable. I share a special connection with children and if given a choice I would spend 365 days of the year every minute every second in the company of kids. I like to believe there is a child within each one of us no matter how old we grow and we should never let go of that.

So two days back I visited the Vaidehi Ashram along with Siri, which looks after and houses around 150 girls right from the age group of 3 onwards. I was excited and was waiting eagerly to go spend some time with the girls.  The minute I stepped into the Ashram I felt a sense of calmness around me. I met lil girls from the age groups of 3-8 years. I don’t think I’ll be able to exactly put in words the kind of emotions, which ran through my mind the minute I met them. My eyes became moist with happiness when I heard their cheerful laughter and chatter. These children are young tiny tots who have maybe gone through some of the worst experiences life has to offer abandoned by their parents etc. But when you meet them, their eagerness to show you the dance and songs they have learnt you feel thankful and blessed to be able to spend a few moments with them. They may have no one to call as their own but you can feel a sense of gratitude in them. Their innocence will melt your hearts away.

Like I said earlier it’s very difficult to express my feelings when I met these children. It actually made me sit and ponder over how blessed we are to have a family around us, to support us and take care of us. Count your blessings everyday and be thankful, as you’re fortunate to have the life your leading. It also made me think inspite of having whatever we have today we still crib for petty things, which may mean nothing.  The more you have the more you expect in life. In this whole confusion we tend to forget and look back at what we have and have a sense of gratitude. All we do is complain of having less and wanting more. Money can buy us all the luxuries in life, it can buy us materialistic happiness as well but it cannot buy you the support and strength a family can offer you. So lets be thankful though we may not have the best of everything in life, atleast we have a family to stand by us, there are many who don’t have the pleasure to call someone their family.

We all lead busy lives but do take out sometime to go spend some time with those who are less fortunate.  Trust me you couldn’t have been happier, when you meet these children who have no complaints about life or their circumstances. They are just eager to be able to laugh with you and spend some cherishable time with you. I believe in giving back in whatever small way I can afford to.

Siri, I am glad to have met someone like you and thanks for inviting me over 🙂

 

Respect to Womanhood – Change begins

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This is not a post where I am going to rant and complain about the sad state of affairs of how women are generally treated all over the world,be it in India or anywhere else. We all know about how Women were always considered the weaker sex in society be it in d 10th century or the 21st century!!! That is something which is never going to change cuz the male testosterone is filled with pride and superiority and they would never let a woman rule over them.

Anyway like I said today I am not writing this post to talk about why we are treated badly etc etc but I would want to put across a few points on the change in the mindset of ourselves ‘the women’. Yes I am talking about bringing about small changes in our lives, maybe then collectively the outlook towards women can be changed.

Women need to learn how to detach themselves. Have you ever noticed how we cling on to every tiny thing be it family,relationships,work,things at home and around us? We always tend to create a very sentimental and emotional attachment. The difference between us and men are they know when to detach be it family or work wise. Life goes on where as we are stuck with emotional attachments. Whether we are at home or outside our mind is in two places we are always worried about the family or the child or if the servant is going to turn up today. When your child goes on a holiday more than the child it’s you who is worried if he/she has eaten,if they have slept well n the list goes on. Give yourself a break stop worrying the child will be fine.

Women need to stop feeding the male ego. It can be in any situation be it at home with your spouse,at work with your co-workers or under any normal circumstance. If you know what you’re doing is right stand up for it and voice it. Don’t give in to the male superiority and let them feel a sense of achievement.

Educate yourselves. Have an ambition and goal in life. Go out explore your interests. Earn your own bucks and be financially independent. The high you get from it cannot beat anything else.

Stop taking the entire weight on your shoulders. There is no hard fast rule that only women need to cook or do household chores. If you want things to change don’t expect change from the outside world, start from your own surroundings. Divide work equally at home if you can cook so can the man. Do the household chores together, even men can sweep and clean the house why not?? If you have children don’t take the entire responsibility on your head after all it’s your husband’s child as well. Let them also babysit the child,feed them,play with them and also cook their favorite meals. Trust me you’re not going to get a medal for doing everything yourself so learn to take a backseat and teach the man in your life that he needs to put in a hand too.

Women are their own enemies. It’s true we are our own enemies. It’s very rare that you find two women best of friends. We are always competing and comparing ourselves with other women. We are trying to be the better wife,the better mother,the better employee and the fitter lady. If you see another lady with an expensive branded bag the first reaction is ‘Oh she has such an expensive bag! I wish I could have one too’.

Stop the melodrama. Yes, I am being harsh,take it with a pinch of salt and accept it. We love being dramatic don’t we?? Tears come very easily to us,it’s like we have a bucketful of water waiting in our eyes to explode. Be strong and face situations with grit.

Have you ever heard of a Son-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? No it’s very very rare. How many times have you heard Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? Almost all the time right,so you see we are our own enemies. We are not here to kiss anybody’s ass. Do things the way you like it to be done not how your Mother-in-law wants it to be done. Stop being the scape goat, stand up for yourself and if anybody has a problem let them
deal with it. Don’t break your head over it. Don’t stress about it too much. I am not referring to only the relation between a Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law but in general about any relationship. Just remember you can’t please everybody’s whims and fancies.

Love yourself. Even if your fat,thin,short or tall love yourself the way you are. Treat yourself to surprises once in a while. Take breaks in life spend time with yourself, it’s not always about house,work,family,husband and child. They will all survive without you for a few days.

Change begins from within so start from your own surroundings. We deserve to be loved and respected.

Your’s truly,
A fellow woman 🙂