This is not a post where I am going to rant and complain about the sad state of affairs of how women are generally treated all over the world,be it in India or anywhere else. We all know about how Women were always considered the weaker sex in society be it in d 10th century or the 21st century!!! That is something which is never going to change cuz the male testosterone is filled with pride and superiority and they would never let a woman rule over them.
Anyway like I said today I am not writing this post to talk about why we are treated badly etc etc but I would want to put across a few points on the change in the mindset of ourselves ‘the women’. Yes I am talking about bringing about small changes in our lives, maybe then collectively the outlook towards women can be changed.
Women need to learn how to detach themselves. Have you ever noticed how we cling on to every tiny thing be it family,relationships,work,things at home and around us? We always tend to create a very sentimental and emotional attachment. The difference between us and men are they know when to detach be it family or work wise. Life goes on where as we are stuck with emotional attachments. Whether we are at home or outside our mind is in two places we are always worried about the family or the child or if the servant is going to turn up today. When your child goes on a holiday more than the child it’s you who is worried if he/she has eaten,if they have slept well n the list goes on. Give yourself a break stop worrying the child will be fine.
Women need to stop feeding the male ego. It can be in any situation be it at home with your spouse,at work with your co-workers or under any normal circumstance. If you know what you’re doing is right stand up for it and voice it. Don’t give in to the male superiority and let them feel a sense of achievement.
Educate yourselves. Have an ambition and goal in life. Go out explore your interests. Earn your own bucks and be financially independent. The high you get from it cannot beat anything else.
Stop taking the entire weight on your shoulders. There is no hard fast rule that only women need to cook or do household chores. If you want things to change don’t expect change from the outside world, start from your own surroundings. Divide work equally at home if you can cook so can the man. Do the household chores together, even men can sweep and clean the house why not?? If you have children don’t take the entire responsibility on your head after all it’s your husband’s child as well. Let them also babysit the child,feed them,play with them and also cook their favorite meals. Trust me you’re not going to get a medal for doing everything yourself so learn to take a backseat and teach the man in your life that he needs to put in a hand too.
Women are their own enemies. It’s true we are our own enemies. It’s very rare that you find two women best of friends. We are always competing and comparing ourselves with other women. We are trying to be the better wife,the better mother,the better employee and the fitter lady. If you see another lady with an expensive branded bag the first reaction is ‘Oh she has such an expensive bag! I wish I could have one too’.
Stop the melodrama. Yes, I am being harsh,take it with a pinch of salt and accept it. We love being dramatic don’t we?? Tears come very easily to us,it’s like we have a bucketful of water waiting in our eyes to explode. Be strong and face situations with grit.
Have you ever heard of a Son-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? No it’s very very rare. How many times have you heard Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law fighting?? Almost all the time right,so you see we are our own enemies. We are not here to kiss anybody’s ass. Do things the way you like it to be done not how your Mother-in-law wants it to be done. Stop being the scape goat, stand up for yourself and if anybody has a problem let them
deal with it. Don’t break your head over it. Don’t stress about it too much. I am not referring to only the relation between a Daughter-in-law and Mother-in-law but in general about any relationship. Just remember you can’t please everybody’s whims and fancies.
Love yourself. Even if your fat,thin,short or tall love yourself the way you are. Treat yourself to surprises once in a while. Take breaks in life spend time with yourself, it’s not always about house,work,family,husband and child. They will all survive without you for a few days.
Change begins from within so start from your own surroundings. We deserve to be loved and respected.
A fellow woman 🙂