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Why so “JUDGEMENTAL”

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Like it or not we are judged all the time and not only are we victims, we equally participate in judging others. We are under scrutiny anytime, anywhere for how we look, how we dress, how we move around, about our habits and the list is endless. We end up wasting so much time discussing about another persons personality and lifestyle choices. I ask, is it necessary??

So the other day someone had posted this really discriminating picture on their SM page about how there is a certain section of children who apparently “aren’t well behaved” and those who are “so called well-behaved”. The so called “not well-behaved” children belonged to a “social group” that did drugs, drank alcohol, got pregnant, etc. etc. Pretty sure you might have guessed who falls under the “well-behaved” category by now, so called geeks of course. Kudos to those whole felt their kith and kin didn’t fall under the “not well behaved category” and made them look like “Irresponsible People”

What really struck the chord for me was how can people be so judgmental. Why are people/kids/teenagers who consume alcohol or maybe smoke a cigarette or have a child out of wedlock considered unfit in the community?? Why are they considered “BAD PEOPLE” to hang out with. Who are we to judge anybody?? I feel nobody has the right to judge anyone other than “GOD”

Like the famous saying goes around “Do not judge a book by its cover” I would say do not judge or categorize a person by his/her habits/actions. Behind every smile is a hidden story. Each and every one of us have our own stories, the ups and downs in life, we all learn to deal with our situations differently. A person might smoke or do drugs, but he/she might be a better human being than you. They might be smarter or talented than you are. So why judge???

A person might have taken up drugs or alcohol for reasons best known to them. Are they hurting you in the process? No, then just take a chill pill move on with your life let them lead theirs. In todays hard for time pressed life we all need to destress in some way or the other. Some of us may take up a dancing class, some of us may workout, some of us may laze around watching TV, some of us may drink and some of us may do drugs. You may suck at dancing, you may not have good table manners, so am I allowed to tag you as an “unfit or bad” person just because you cannot dance or can’t eat properly at a dinner table?? No right, so how does that make a person who smokes or does drugs bad? You have your own way of de-stressing, others have their own way. It may not fall in your category of ” the best things to do to unwind” but it also doesn’t give you a right to “judge” another persons actions. PERIOD.

The beauty of life is nobody is perfect and nobody is alike. We all have our flaws and brownie points. I would like to leave you with a thought to ponder on!!!

“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

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A Visit to Vaidehi Ashram

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I met Siri couple of months back when I did a baking workshop. The first instance when you meet her, you will feel a ray of positive energy surrounding you.  Cheerful and bubbly, if your down in the dumps one second around her and your bound to bounce back to happy mode.

Before I met her in person I had been following her food blog “cookingwithsiri” and I must say her blog is one of the very few I follow regularly and experiment in my kitchen. She recently posted an article on the annual day celebrations at an Ashram she has been associated with. Before I could ask her, she invited me to come over on my next trip to Hyderabad and spend some time with the children there. It was like she read my mind. I jumped on hearing that and agreed instantly.

Children and me are inseparable. I share a special connection with children and if given a choice I would spend 365 days of the year every minute every second in the company of kids. I like to believe there is a child within each one of us no matter how old we grow and we should never let go of that.

So two days back I visited the Vaidehi Ashram along with Siri, which looks after and houses around 150 girls right from the age group of 3 onwards. I was excited and was waiting eagerly to go spend some time with the girls.  The minute I stepped into the Ashram I felt a sense of calmness around me. I met lil girls from the age groups of 3-8 years. I don’t think I’ll be able to exactly put in words the kind of emotions, which ran through my mind the minute I met them. My eyes became moist with happiness when I heard their cheerful laughter and chatter. These children are young tiny tots who have maybe gone through some of the worst experiences life has to offer abandoned by their parents etc. But when you meet them, their eagerness to show you the dance and songs they have learnt you feel thankful and blessed to be able to spend a few moments with them. They may have no one to call as their own but you can feel a sense of gratitude in them. Their innocence will melt your hearts away.

Like I said earlier it’s very difficult to express my feelings when I met these children. It actually made me sit and ponder over how blessed we are to have a family around us, to support us and take care of us. Count your blessings everyday and be thankful, as you’re fortunate to have the life your leading. It also made me think inspite of having whatever we have today we still crib for petty things, which may mean nothing.  The more you have the more you expect in life. In this whole confusion we tend to forget and look back at what we have and have a sense of gratitude. All we do is complain of having less and wanting more. Money can buy us all the luxuries in life, it can buy us materialistic happiness as well but it cannot buy you the support and strength a family can offer you. So lets be thankful though we may not have the best of everything in life, atleast we have a family to stand by us, there are many who don’t have the pleasure to call someone their family.

We all lead busy lives but do take out sometime to go spend some time with those who are less fortunate.  Trust me you couldn’t have been happier, when you meet these children who have no complaints about life or their circumstances. They are just eager to be able to laugh with you and spend some cherishable time with you. I believe in giving back in whatever small way I can afford to.

Siri, I am glad to have met someone like you and thanks for inviting me over 🙂

 

Conversations

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Weddings are the best place to hear aunties, ladies young and old chatter away about their kids, clothes,jewellery and the likes. It’s actually interesting to listen to this kind of gossip and trust me it’s a good time pass as well. I am all ears for such kind of stuff.

Recent conversations overheard at a wedding ….

“My son is earning XYZ salary and he’s working for a foreign company. He’s also visited the USA”

“Studious children will always study we will only have to worry about those who don’t”

“My son has got a job and he recently moved to Benguluruu(notice the exaggeration of the city)”

“Did you keep the gold safe? Yes,I got off all the jewellery, it’s safe”

“Do you know this year 2nd PU results are excellent everyone has got above 500”

“My daughter will be studying engineering what about your child”

“My son bought a 3bed-room apartment recently, he got it for a throw away price”

“Velvet blouses are back in fashion”

“I recently saw a saree weaved with roses it was really beautiful but the blouse was horrible”

“The gold prices are down now, it’s the best time to invest in some gold”

“XYZ’s Sangeet was beautiful, it seems they spent a lot”

“How many years since your son got married? Do they have any children?”

All these conversations happened in a native language n it had me in splits. I mean how people love showing off about their children is actually very funny!!