Monthly Archives: October 2011

Why are we so backward still when it comes down to a Woman

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Why is it that even till today,we are so conservative in our thoughts about Woman.
I an writing this post sitting in a bookstore and it hits me no matter what happens we tend to put the blame on a Woman at the end. A marriage doesn’t work out-oh the girl wasn’t a nice female , Children are not well brought up n well behaved- oh the Mother didn’t bring them up well. SSomething goes wrong in the family or business-oh it’s because of the new daughter-in-law who has entered the family. Why are Woman such easy preys and are held victimised for every thing happening on planet earth.
We live in a highly educated environment but still our thinking is zero. Why are woman so vulnerable to being blamed??? Maybe this Is a scenario which will never change and there will be no answers. The other day somebody was telling the Man can say whatever he wants and do what he wants to do but a Woman cannot why the discrimination. We are no less we are equally educated we earn equally and we take equally infact more responsibility in every aspect of life. Infact even the word “Woman has Man to it, think about it:

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Family ties and bonds

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I recently happened to see a movie called “Dookudu”. A Telugu flick n a very well made film after a looong time,no wonder I saw the film 4 times teeheee 🙂 Anyway apart from the usual rom-com ,the fights and the heroic stunts what really drew me towards the film was the angle in which they showed how thankful and blessed we are to our elders for giving us this beautiful gift which is ” Life”.

It made me realize can there ever be any better gift given to us by anybody and the second most beautiful gift any parent can give their children is education,nothing can replace valuable education as it makes us who we are today.I realized also that at times we might have not lived up our parents expectations,hurt them and upset them but at the end of the day we love them and so do they. I take this opportunity to let my parents know that they r the most blessed and best parents I’ve had and I apologize sincerely for all the times I might have let them down and hurt them but I would also like them to know it wasn’t intentional and I’ll always make them feel proud of my sibling and me 🙂

Now back to the movie what it made me realize is alll their lives our parents work hard aand night to give us the best of life and to see us shine.they only want the best for us and they work so hard we will realize that only when we become parents .

Also there is this sudden change in us when we become financially independent, I don’t know about others but at least me,I feel this sense of responsibility now that it’s my duty to look after my family and take care of them. They have given us sooo much now it’s our turn to look after them ,keep them happy and give them all the happiness in the world. That’s the best gift any child can give their parents look after them like they looked after you when you were a baby. Parents are equivalent to God and nobody can ever take their place. God bless and till we meet again

Why are women blamed all the time

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I was watching a tv soap today n what I saw really gave me a chill down my spine.A widow is treated as an untouchable,she is considered bad omen to the family. This custom is still followed in many parts of India where a widow,after the death of her husband is treated like the blacksheep of the family,she is not allowed to sit with the family members or even been seen around,she can’t eat with them n neither is she allowed to have a normal life again.
I was shocked to see this I have heard of such things in the past but never did I realise that it’s still being practised in this age and time. We talk about innovative technology,web 3.0, where books have been replaced by iPads,western clothing and western lifestyles then why is it in this matter are we so conservative yet??? Is it do hard to let go of old beleifs and customs??? Are people so susceptible and resistant to change??? Before Tht I would want to say what was the mistake of the poor woman,it’s not her fault that she lost her husband What I want to say is everyone of us has the right to LIVE,life has to move on birth and death are not in our hands.

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Have we ever realized how it’s easier to blame somebody conveniently? Blaming is like playing football we kick around n too around the issue from one to another but at the end it eventually comes back to us. So the bottom line is “stop ignoring it all the while”.

But why do we find it so easy to blame others is it because we don’t want things on our head or we find it too hard to accept with reality or for various others reasons.

I’ve noticed now that I have been married for 7 successful months, the blame game is more evident here. Anything is not done the blame goes on the other better half, if things aren’t organized again another round of blaming happens and so on and so forth. But off late I have realized when u blame your partner for something which has not been done in the right manner or which was has not happened it leads to another circle of criticism and bad-mouthing. Eventually both “the husband and wife”sulk,throw a nice round of mouthful “gaalis” at each other ,sulk, not talk with each other for days together, not eat food and the drama continues.

What I realized it it’s better to explain to your partner in a nice and polite way about what you don’t like in him/her and get things done the way you want it to, rather than shouting and screaming at each other. We never know what is going to happen the next second rather than fighting and doing the blame game all the time we’d rather spend the time in being there for one another and grow with the relationship. Every individual is different we have been bought up amongst different cultures, traditions and customs soo when two people decide to live together for the rest of their lives we can’t expect wonders to happen overnight.

Give your partners time to change but don’t expect them to change in a way that they lose their own identity, we are not in their lives to bring about change we need to accept them as they are…Till we meet again 🙂

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